Non-harrassment problems with other users
Posted: Fri Mar 04, 2016 6:37 pm
I feel almost worried to say this because I don't know if it is appropriate. :(
A few weeks ago I was upset by a user on this forum during a discussion, where I did not think that they read my posts properly before saying some things that were very hurtful, things that are still on my mind right now. But I didn't know how to address them right then and there and didn't want to derail the thread I myself had set up to talk about a subject. I also didn't want to private message that user as I felt it would be too confrontational. (I didn' t want the horrible stressful feeling of logging onto this site and having to see what they had written back, especially as they had shown they were not reading carefully what I was saying before replying.) Finally I certainly did not want to name the user to any other forum users when asking for, say, support for what happened in the Jedi Hugs forum, but I also didn't want to write about it in Jedi Hugs with any obvious details that would identify the user to themselves (they are all over this forum). I ended up with a post in that forum that was so short and nonspecific that it got barely any responses and as I couldn't tell anyone what was really going on I didn't feel any better. I feel miserable that this place where I come for support I now have a problem on, and I want to come here for help with it but I can't talk about at all.
I wonder if there could be a way when this kind of thing happens of privately telling a designated mod about the user and what they did, and maybe they could keep an eye on that user to see if it will be a repeating problem with their behaviour towards others? I know technically we can inbox mods at any time but I don't know who to start with for that. I don't want to appear to be spreading drama and I also don't want to be a bother. If there was a designated mod (or mods) for this purpose that people knew about then that could help.
A few weeks ago I was upset by a user on this forum during a discussion, where I did not think that they read my posts properly before saying some things that were very hurtful, things that are still on my mind right now. But I didn't know how to address them right then and there and didn't want to derail the thread I myself had set up to talk about a subject. I also didn't want to private message that user as I felt it would be too confrontational. (I didn' t want the horrible stressful feeling of logging onto this site and having to see what they had written back, especially as they had shown they were not reading carefully what I was saying before replying.) Finally I certainly did not want to name the user to any other forum users when asking for, say, support for what happened in the Jedi Hugs forum, but I also didn't want to write about it in Jedi Hugs with any obvious details that would identify the user to themselves (they are all over this forum). I ended up with a post in that forum that was so short and nonspecific that it got barely any responses and as I couldn't tell anyone what was really going on I didn't feel any better. I feel miserable that this place where I come for support I now have a problem on, and I want to come here for help with it but I can't talk about at all.
I wonder if there could be a way when this kind of thing happens of privately telling a designated mod about the user and what they did, and maybe they could keep an eye on that user to see if it will be a repeating problem with their behaviour towards others? I know technically we can inbox mods at any time but I don't know who to start with for that. I don't want to appear to be spreading drama and I also don't want to be a bother. If there was a designated mod (or mods) for this purpose that people knew about then that could help.