Friends of Captain Awkward

What is ableism / disablism? Why is it a problem? ...the "ableist" societal world-view is that the able-bodied are the norm in society, and that people who have disabilities must either strive to become that norm or should keep their distance from able-bodied people. A disability is thus, inherentl...

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Though tbh, I know those sandwiches you speak of, deterwhat. Those are some unappetizing sandwiches. Those are not Sandwiches of Love; those are Sandwiches of Favor-Sharking and Obligation and Bullying and Boundary-Crossing. We have no room for those sandwiches here. Here is a link you might enjoy, ...

The Sandwich of Love is a reference to the Captain Awkward advice titled The Sandwich Means “I Love You”. http://captainawkward.com/2012/02/13/190-the-sandwich-means-i-love-you-a-valentine/ Relevant quotes: I have a few things I do that I recognize in hindsight are signals that I’m about to spiral d...

I think site users are frustrated with this issue because we can't (or at least I can't) imagine that casually racist or sexist language would be permitted, even under a TW, so why are the rules different for casual ableist language? Speaking only for myself, etc etc - I think any casually ignorant...

In the case of ableist language specifically though, is there even a reclaiming argument to be made? I've been trying to expose myself to more knowledgeable people on the subject in the last year, and I haven't run across anyone saying "Take back the C-word" or something similar. (All TWs that foll...